|—||Meredith Grey (via wildlyharold)|
Because they’re afraid. They’re afraid of being outcast, marginalized, shunned. Or they’re afraid that the violence just might be turned against them if they voice their opposition too vehemently. So they learn to keep their mouths shut, even when what they’re seeing goes against everything they know to be good. The Guy Code imposes a “code of silence on boys, requiring them to suffer without speaking of it and to be silent witnesses to acts of cruelty to others,” write Dan Kindlon and Michael Thompson. Boys and men learn to be silent in the face of other men’s violence. Silence is one of the ways boys become men.
They learn not to say anything when guys make sexist comments to girls. They learn not to say anything when guys taunt or tease another guy, or start fights, or bully or torment a classmate or a friend. They scurry silently if they’re walking down the street and some guys at a construction site—or, for that matter, in business suits—start harassing a woman. They learn not to tell anyone about the homoerotic sadism that is practiced on new kids when they join a high-school or college athletic team, or the school band, or a fraternity. Or when they hear that a bunch of guys gang raped a classmate. They tell no parents, no teachers, no administrators. They don’t tell the police. And they certainly don’t confront the perpetrators.
|—||Michael Kimmel, Guyland (via wretchedoftheearth)|
ACTUAL MESSAGE OF (500) DAYS OF SUMMER THAT NO ONE ACTUALLY REALIZES
The fact that Native societies were egalitarian 500 years ago is not stopping women from being hit or abused now. For instance, in my years of anti-violence organizing, I would hear, “We can’t worry about domestic violence; we must worry about survival issues first.” But since Native women are the women most likely to be killed by domestic violence, they are clearly not surviving. So when we talk about survival of our nations, who are we including?
These Native feminists are challenging not only patriarchy within Native communities, but also white supremacy and colonialism within mainstream white feminism. That is, they’re challenging why it is that white women get to define what feminism is.
|—||Indigenous Feminism Without Apology - Andrea Smith (via whitedenial-ontrial)|
a woman’s body is not for you. if she wants to cover it she should feel free and safe in doing so. if she wants to expose it she should feel free and safe in doing so. it is not an indication of her self-respect but an indication of her preferences for whatever reasons she chooses — none of which are your business or concern.
Stop right now. I know it’s hard and I know sometimes it feels like it’s not even worth trying to stop, but it is. I promise. I know that sometimes seeing your scars fade is hard, but bby you know you don’t want them there forever. Once they’re faded, think of how much easier it will be. No sleeves or bracelets or awkward positioning so they don’t notice. Think of how much better it’s going to get for you. All of your problems you have right now WILL get better. You haven’t even lived a quarter of your life yet, there’s so much room for things to look up. I promise. I’ve been where you are and sometimes I’m still there. Last night I relapsed, and of course I regretted it right after. I thought of all of you, I thought of the people that care about me. But relapse is part of recovery. It doesn’t mean I’m not going to get better. It just means that I’m fighting. I promise you that you can get through this. I promise that one day you won’t have to even fake a smile, because it’ll come natural. I promise you that you’ll have a night where you’re not fighting the blade for sleep (or the lighter, etc.). There will be a day where you won’t even remember how hard it is for you right now. And I can’t wait for you to realize that.
So put that down baby, not tonight. Read this again tomorrow if you need to. I love you.
|—||Fabienne in Pulp Fiction (via primadonnapoet)|
|—||Meredith Grey (via erraticintrovert)|
Verbal abuse is still abuse ! #feminism #feminist #abuse #stopabuse #victims #abusevictims #wordshurt #girlpower #riotgirl #riotgrrrl #womensrights #women
A college student part of the “Students for Justice in Palestine” club representing “Deir Yassin” a village that was invaded and depopulated in 1948 for the creation of Israel. She is wearing all black to express mourning and the Keffiyeh to express Palestinian solidarity.
And when we reached Saida, Lebanon (fleeing Palestine)
we were branded as “refugees.”
Oh my god guys, “Hillary Clinton is the Awesomest Awesome to ever Awesome” gushes Jezebel writer Katie Baker. Baker then goes on to provide an inventory of reasons why we ought to concede Clinton is pretty much the living moral incarnation of a love child between Gloria Steinem and Martin…
|—||Delalorm Semabia, 25, a Ghanaian blogger (x)|
I didn’t quite comprehend the motivation behind my megaphone-kissing, rally-rousing, fire-fueling feminism till your ‘enlightenment’ came around.
“Baby, you know you just want to find a man strong enough to handle you. I’m that man, I could sort you out.”
“You and your sexy…